In polygamous marriages-part 1 we will talk about polygamy as it relates to men. We have discussed women and how being in polygamous marriages affects them. We haven’t dealt much with men and how they make out in this type of marriage.
Wives often feel alone and want to talk about the problems they have in their polygamous marriages. They have the many problem anywhere from dealing with negative feelings and thoughts to dealing with hateful co-wives. They have to deal with husbands whom the think are treating them unfairly or unjustly, as well.
Polygamous marriages-part 1 lets begin with wives think husbands have it easy
Polygamous marriages-part 1 lets begin with wives think husbands have it easy being polygamous. Wives believe the pleasure the husbands receive in such marriages diminishes any bad. They don’t see the husbands have difficulties in polygamous marriages, as well. The pleasure the men receive doesn’t lessen the men’ pain and heartache.
The husbands have to deal with their wives who, many times, are malcontents. The husbands must live with the wives and the wives problems. Sometimes the husbands find themselves all alone, with no one to talk with about their situations, the same as the wives.
In Polygamous marriages-part 1, lets talk about how husbands can have peace
In Polygamous marriages-part 1, lets talk about how husbands can have peace. Some of what I say will sound familiar, as we’ve discussed it as it relates to the wives. We are all very much alike.
First, the husband must understand that he cannot make his wife or wives happy. Only Allah can. Knowing it should quickly ease the husband’s stress and his burden. A husband has no power to make his wives happy. He has no power to make anyone happy for that matter. He can’t make himself happy. Allah does it.
Allah says he granteth laughter and tears. He stated, “That it is He Who granteth Laughter and Tears;” Quran: Surah 53, Ayah 43.
A husband could waste a lot of time and energy, trying to do something that he can’t do. Allah says men are the maintainer and protector of women. He did not say it is men responsibility to make women happy. A woman’s happiness comes from Allah, which dependents on the relationship she has with Allah. Allah blesses her based on what she has earned from the good she has done.
Allah lets us know in another ayah (verse) in the Quran that happiness is from Him. He says, “If Allah touch thee with affliction, none can remove it but He; if He touch thee with happiness, He hath power over all things.” Quran: Surah 6, Ayah 17.
Allah gives people peace and He makes them content. It’s what the husband needs – peace and contentment in his marriages and it only comes from Allah.
Please see Part 2 of this post: https://polygamy411.com/polygamous-marriages-part-2/
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