In how husbands can have peace in polygamous marriages-part 2, I’ll continue to talk about happiness. I’ve already said husbands cannot make themselves, their wives, or anyone happy. Allah makes us happy or not.
Husbands must come to know that women all have their own temperament. They have their own wants and desires. No two people are the same. With it said, when the husband set out to please his wives, he will quickly find he can’t make them all happy. It’s not within his ability to make them happy. He hasn’t the power.
Polygamous marriages-part 2 when one wife is happy the other wife possibly is sad
When one wife is happy the other wife possibly is sad. The husband may find one wife happy in the morning, but upset or angry in the evening. He may find the other wife upset or angry in the morning, but happy in the evening. One wife could be happy all day and the other wife could be sad all day. The husbands may find his wives are not constant in the way they are, which could confuse him.
In polygamous marriages-part 2, if the husband learns nothing else, he should learn it’s impossible to please the wives for more than a moment. The wives will only be happy when their desires are being fulfilled unless they are believers. When the wife doesn’t like something, she is no longer pleased.
On occasion the husband may find the wives are all content. It won’t last long. The husband must come to understand that when he wants to do nothing more than please his wives, which is impossible to do, except for momentarily, the wives will become his lord.
Polygamous marriages part-2 know that a husband may find himself running between wives, trying to make each unhappy wife happy
Polygamous marriages part-2 know that a husband may find himself running between wives, trying to make each unhappy wife happy. At times it could seem it’s all he has time to do. Do the wives care how their husbands feel? He tries to comfort one wife and then has to try to comfort the other.
Each wife makes demands about what she needs that she’s not getting. One wife wants more sex or more money or more time or simply don’t want the husband to bother her at all, etc When the husband’s wives rule him, and has him spinning out of control, not knowing which way is up, the wives have become his master.
When a husband tries to satisfy all his wives desires, the wives become his lord. We speak about it here in polygamous marriages-part 2. With more than one wife whom the husband tries to satisfy, he has many Lords. He has now committed shirk (shirk is setting up partners with Allah or making anyone or anything equal to Him). Shirk is an unforgivable sin. The person has to repent for committing shirk before his death. He should pray Allah forgives him. The husband should have only one master and that master should be Allah.
Allah states in the Quran the following: “Allah puts forth a Parable a man belonging to many partners at variance with each other, and a man belonging entirely to one master: are those two equal in comparison? Praise be to Allah! but most of them have no knowledge.” Quran: Surah 39, Ayah 29
Polygamous marriages-part 2 How can the husband fix the problem?
Polygamous marriages-part 2 How can the husband fix the problem? The husband has to stop seeing his wives and see Allah. He should make everything about Allah. He should stop trying to please his wives, and put all his attention on pleasing Allah.
When the husband pleases Allah and the husband is pleasing to Allah, Allah allows the husband to do good. Allah will make him the best husband to his wives , if the wife deserves good. A husband can only find peace when he devote his attention to pleasing Allah. Life then become easier for him.
Polygamous marriages-part 2 A man should lead his wives in his homes, and not let his wives lead him
Polygamous marriages-part 2 A man should lead his wives in his homes, and not let his wives lead him. Allah is his Master. His wives aren’t. What else must husbands do to have peace in his life with his wives.
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