Some polygamous Muslim men have secret wives, which is wrong. A marriage is nothing to hide. In fact, a husband and a wife should publicize it. Marriage should bring the spouses pride and respect. After all, it is an honorable institution.
We know that some polygamous Muslim men have secret wives, as a number of the wives have come forth to speak with us about it. They said that when they married the men, they did not know the men were already married. On the other hand, some agreed to the secrecy. The wife thought that her husband would soon tell his other wife that he had married again. However, he usually doesn’t.
Polygamous Muslim men have secret wives, and it seems that they don’t care how much all the wives suffer as a result of it. No matter how the marriage came about, at some point she realizes that she doesn’t want to stay a secret wife. She no longer accepts what she has become and wants to change it, but she doesn’t know how.
So why when men may have up to four wives at one time do some polygamous Muslim men have secret wives?
It’s probably because they only care about themselves. They don’t care about the wives whom they degrade by keeping them as a secret. It’s clear that a Muslim man who has a secret wife doesn’t care much, if at all, about Islam either.
Many times, the Muslim man uses Islam to put a lawful label of marriage on his illicit activity. He carries out the relationship under the name of marriage. We know that Affairs, which involve adultery and fornication are common among non-Muslims. By the same token, there are Muslims who conduct their so-called marriages as though they are affairs. They have a wife as well as a woman who is like a mistress on the side, whom they call a wife.
Polygamous Muslim men have secret wives and hide them for fear of their first wives
Doesn’t he know that Allah tells us to fear nothing and no one but Him? More often than not, the husband knows his first wife won’t approve of him becoming polygamous. He knows she won’t accept it. Therefore, he sets out to have a wife on the side, whom he doesn’t let his first wife know about. The husband fears that his first wife will leave him, if he marries another openly. He fears the problems that taking another wife would cause in his existing marriage.
Muslim men have secret wives, as they don’t want the hassle of dealing with their first wives. Polygamous Muslim men have secret wives, as they don’t want to deal with their first wives who reject polygamy. They don’t want to lose their first wives. It is why they have secret wives. It has nothing to do with Islam or polygamy. It’s about what the man wants for himself.
One should note that the first wife has a problem with Islam, if she rejects polygamy. If the first wife is not part of the solution, she is part of the problem.
Polygamous Muslim men have secret wives, as they think they can’t live a polygamous lifestyle respectfully
He sets himself up in a relationship that amounts to an affair and calls it polygamy. A man should consider remaining monogamous, if he has fear of telling his wife and children that he will have another family other than them. Yet, he, out of selfishness and greed, takes advantage of the very people (women) whom he should protect.
Who suffers when the husband sets out to fulfill his lustful desires? The wives do. The wife whom the husband has kept the truth from is the victim. The wife whom the husband has kept hidden is the victim, as well.
A woman should refuse marriage to a man, if it will make her a secret wife. Don’t agree to it. She should decline marriage to a man who wants to hide her from his other family. A man hides what he has shame for. “Wife” is a title that should come with dignity and respect. A man who follows the Quran and lives it would not hide a wife.
Muslim men and women should not make something beautiful such as marriage into something ugly. Marriage should not look like or feel like a forbidden affair.
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