Many a wife has polygamous wedding night blues before her husband marries another woman, making him polygamous. She has it before and after he marries the other woman. Many women ask what they should do to help them overcome the anxiety and pain that they feel when their husbands marry again.
First, a wife may find herself pleasantly surprised that she is not bothered by his marriage on that day. Allah instructs us to do acts of worship, such as salat (5 daily prayers), reading Quran, and remembering Him, etc. When we do as Allah instructs us, he relieves us of our burdens and relieves our pain. Allah may very well make the husband’s wedding day a peaceful one for his other wife. Sadness doesn’t necessarily take over the other wife that day.
A wife’s thoughts are why she has polygamous wedding night blues when her husband marries another
Her thoughts cause the state of turmoil and panic that she is in. Her negative, disturbing thoughts are from Satan. Satan whispers to her. For instance, he tells her to imagine her husband and his other wife being intimate. Satan has her picture such things.
Any negative thoughts that she has are from Satan. Satan can do nothing but whisper to us. It’s the only tool that he has. He works with nothing more and nothing less. It’s his job to keep people upset. He suggests to them that they think and do negative things.
How does a wife combat polygamous wedding night blues?
Allah has given us a remedy for all the problems that we have. What does Allah tell us to do when Satan assaults us with his whispers? He says:
“If a suggestion from Satan assail thy (mind), seek refuge with Allah; for He heareth and knoweth (all things).” Quran: Surah 7, ayah 200
“Those who fear Allah, when a thought of evil from Satan assaults them, bring Allah to remembrance, when lo! they see (aright)!” Quran: Surah 7, ayah 201
Satan messes with a wife on her husband’s wedding night when he is with his new wife. It’s what Satan does. It’s his job to keep people upset and dissatisfied with life. Allah clearly lets us know it when He says about Satan, the following:
“He said: “Because thou hast thrown me out of the way, lo! I will lie in wait for them on thy straight way:” Quran: Surah 7, ayah 16
“Then will I assault them from before them and behind them, from their right and their left: Nor wilt thou find, in most of them, gratitude (for thy mercies).” Quran: Surah 7, ayah 17
Allah let’s us know what Satan’s job is. He lets us know how to counter it, as well. He says to remember Him. Can a wife remember Allah when she sits and entertains thoughts about what her husband is doing or will do? How could thoughts of Allah and thoughts of her husband be in her head at the same time? It’s impossible to think of Allah and think of other things at the same time.
The best answer I could give a woman who is having polygamous wedding night blues is to remember Allah
Allah says remembrance of Him is the greatest thing in life without doubt. Read the Holy Quran and contemplate it. Offer your five daily salat (prayers). It’s all part of remembering Allah.
He says, “Recite what is sent of the Book by inspiration to thee, and establish regular Prayer: for Prayer restrains from shameful and unjust deeds; and remembrance of Allah is the greatest (thing in life) without doubt. And Allah knows the (deeds) that ye do.” Quran: Surah 29, ayah 45
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