Sometimes a husband is polygamous with a marriage license or certificate, also known as a marriage decree. The legal marriage license gives the one wife privileges and rights to the husband’s property or their joint property that the other wife doesn’t have. The woman who marries the married man knows it or should have known it before she agreed to marry the man.
When a woman marries a man who is already married, she may try to figure out the details later. Sometimes it’s a little late in the game for her to do it then. She needs to know right away where she stands when her husband is polygamous with a marriage license with his other wife. What happens when he dies, for instance? Where does it leave the one without the legal document?
She may not like that her husband is polygamous with a marriage license with his first wife and she doesn’t have one
It may seem wrong to many. We sometimes make emotional decisions, which are not good. We all need to keep in mind that we are to honor contracts. In the Holy Quran Allah instructs us to do so.
In particular, in the Holy Quran there is an account of an incident that deals with contracts. I made an emotional decision when I first read it in which I was wrong. The incident involved Prophet David (PBUH). I’ll sum the story up in a nutshell:
Two disputants climbed over the wall of Prophet David’s palace and wanted him to decide who was right in their dispute. The one disputant had 99 female sheep. The other disputant had only one. The man with the 99 sheep wanted the other man’s one sheep.
Prophet David ruled in favor of the man who had one sheep. He ruled wrongly in saying that the man with the one sheep should keep it. The two men had a contract and it was the right of the man with the 99 sheep to take the other man’s sheep. Prophet David repented and sought Allah’s forgiveness.
I thought the man with the 99 sheep was selfish to want to take the other man’s sheep. It goes to show that we are to honored contracts and shouldn’t act on emotions.
It’s a serious situation when a man is polygamous with a Marriage License with one wife, but doesn’t have one with the other
The marriage license is a legal and binding contract. Especially it is so when the man had only one wife when he entered the contract. He may not have thought he would become polygamous. After all, no one knows the future.
When a woman marries a man who is polygamous with a marriage license, she should know that the wife who married first will receive things she won’t get. A pension, social security, and medical benefits will go to the wife who is the legal wife. One should know that a legal marriage license is a contract. The parties to it should honor it.
The woman who married the married man knew that he was legally married or should have known. If she saw it as unfair, she should have turned down the marriage proposal. She shouldn’t marry him and then begin to complain about how unfair it is.
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