A woman often talks about polygamy and the agonizing pain that she feels while in a polygamous marriage. Only a wife who has felt the pain knows how awful and heartbreaking it is. Someone may say that she feels someone else pain. However, unless the person has been in a polygamous marriage, it’s impossible for her to know how it feels. She can’t begin to know.
It’s one thing to talk about polygamy and the agonizing pain that a wife feels when she’s in a polygamous marriage. But, it’s another thing to talk about what will help to relieve it. For instance, what is the remedy? Ultimately, to fix it, the wife must turn all her attention to Allah. So, what does that mean?
Basically, Insha Allah (if it’s God’s will), she has to get on her prayer rug as often as possible, and plead, beg and cry, to Allah. She has to ask Him to help and to guide her. The wife must ask Him to forgive her for all the wrong that she has done in the past; that she is doing in the present, and that she will do in the future. Furthermore, she must ask His forgiveness for all the wrong that she does that she is not aware of. The wife needs to humble herself to Allah. Additionally, she must pray that He’ll make all things better for her.
We need to remember that Allah says he answers prayers. He also hears each person as soon as he or she calls on Him. Reading the Quran is essential. We are to read as much as is easy for us, especially in the early morning hours. Allah says that prayer in the morning carries its testimony.
The wife may think that the pain will never go away. Although, it will. However, she has to first do her part. In particular, she must worship and serve Allah. Knowing what Allah expects of her is of utmost importance. It means knowing what Allah instructs us to do and what not to do. She has to learn what He tells us to believe and believe it. All that we needs to know is in the Holy Quran.
About polygamy and the agonizing pain, the wife should align herself with those who help her to focus on Allah
Without a doubt, keeping her mind on the perceived problem will not help. But, staying focused on Allah will help her to get through the troubling time. It will help her to keep her sanity. It is important that she keeps the company with those who have the right understanding of Islam. In other words, it means being with those who get it.
A wife should not let herself become attached to created things. Allah does not want us to love anything or anyone more than we love Him. She should not try to own what belongs to Him, such as husband, wife, or children etc. If she does, He may take those things from her as a warning, test or punishment or have them turn against her.
The wife must try to stay strong and not give up. It’s what perseverance is about. Additionally, she must remember Allah much and often. He will take her through it. She must hold on. It is doable. It could be a means to help her enter Paradise. She should strive for Paradise and make it her goal.
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