One of our commentators here at polygamy 411 asked a good question about polygamy in Islam and divorce. She asked if she could divorce her polygamous husband if she’s unhappy in her marriage? Her marriage wasn’t working out for the best.
First of all, let me clarify what I’ve said on the blog about polygamy in Islam and divorce. No one here on this blog has said that a woman cannot seek a divorce if she is unhappy in her marriage.
It’s important to realize that Allah says divorce is permissible. Furthermore, He tells us how to divorce. There is a surah (chapter) in the Quran entitled, ” At-Talaq” (divorce) that all should familiarize themselves with.
As an illustration, let’s take the wife of Zaid. Zaid was the Prophet Muhammad’s (PBUH)) adopted son. His wife went to the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) and requested a divorce from Zaid. Thus, he granted it to her.
In another example, Allah revealed ayats (verses) in the Holy Quran about the Prophet Muhammad’s (PBUH) wives. He lets them know that He would have the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) divorce them, if they didn’t get themselves together. In other words, they received a warning to stop causing problems for the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH).
With this in mind, there is no reason to believe that divorce is not lawful. It lets us know that divorce is okay, if needed.
Let’s visit the subject of polygamy in Islam and divorce in more detail
Some people have come to polygamy 411 and accused the administrator Ana of telling people that they can’t divorce. They accused her of saying that they must stay in their unhappy marriages. I trash those posts because those who wrote them don’t read with their minds open. Consequently, they make false accusations. Clearly, they are so into hating polygamy that they jump to conclusions. No one here encourages women to stay in marriages that they don’t want.
I have said it before and will say it again; there are women who are in polygamous marriages who never wanted it. They don’t want it. Although, the women love their husbands and their husbands love them. At times they may think they want a divorce. On the other hand, at other times they think they don’t want it. In fact, most don’t want a divorce.
When it comes polygamy in Islam and divorce, most who are here accept that Allah has made polygamy lawful
They don’t tend to argue about that fact. The women come to this blog freely. No one abducted them or brought them here. No one here held them hostage.
Most of the women who are here want to accept polygamy. If it wasn’t for polygamy they wouldn’t want to divorce their husbands. Besides, they may not want to live a single life or they don’t want to start over again with someone else. There are many reasons that they give for staying in the marriage.
The wives are here simply to seek help in accepting what Allah has decided about their lives. For instance, they don’t want to oppose Allah with their desire for monogamy. Those are the people we try to help here.
When it comes to polygamy and divorce, if anyone wants a divorce, then she should make her intention about it. Then wait on Allah to give His decision. Allah says He provides handsomely for those who divorce.
There are so many people out there in cyberspace who get it twisted. I won’t allow them to write on this blog and spout ignorance. They don’t like that women are here trying to accept polygamy. They don’t want women to accept polygamy. It’s the gist of it.
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