It is quite common for a wife to say that she is sad because her husband may become polygamous. I’m not surprised. Probably every woman who thinks about polygamy or is just beginning a journey in a polygamous marriage gets sad and depressed. The good news is that sadness doesn’t have to last. It should only be a temporary state of being.
When she thinks that her husband may become polygamous, she begins to think that she is not good enough for him. After all, if she was enough, why would he take another wife? She may think that if she was good enough for her husband, then he wouldn’t want to have someone else.
It’s important to realize that it has nothing to do with whether a wife is good enough or not. It has to do with a desire that Allah has placed in many men to want to have a relationship with more than one woman. He made polygamy lawful for men. Therefore, men have no reason to fornicate or commit adultery, which are grave sins.
Allah made men capable of loving more than one woman at a time. He made them able to take care of more than one, as well. It has nothing to do with any shortcoming that women think that they may have.
Some men are dumb in that they think they need to give people a reason for why they want another wife. For instance, they may say that their current wives aren’t satisfying them in one way or another. I’ve heard some men say that they need to show people how to do polygamy. Another excuse is that they want to follow the Sunnah. It’s all hogwash. It’s just a reason and excuse that a man comes up with; although he doesn’t need one.
A woman may say that she is sad because her husband may become polygamous when she doesn’t understand polygamy
If a woman thinks that she will never be happy in a polygamous marriage, then she won’t. It’s because the way that she thinks will affect her life. Negativity breeds negativity. She has to make up her mind that she will be happy. The only way to have peace and contentment in one’s life is to learn what Allah tells us to do. We must believe it and do it. There is no other way. So, I suggest that a Muslim woman gets busy serving and worshiping Allah, so that she will have a good life.
She shouldn’t stress over what may happen in the future. Until a husband marries another, it is not a reality. A woman should stay in the moment and enjoy her marriage with her husband while the marriage is monogamous. If he marries another, then she will start a new chapter of her life. She could look forward to a better life in a matter of time. If a woman is sad because her husband may become polygamous, she probably has the wrong belief in Allah.
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