Some polygamous husbands tell lies. In doing so, they cause many problems. They sets the stage for how good or bad a polygamous marriage will be.
Some husbands tell lies usually to convince women to join existing marriages and become second wives. They use the art of persuasion. In lying, the men usually portray the first wife in a terrible light. He may lie about how he feels about his wife. For instance, he may say his first wife is “crazy” or unstable or won’t have sex with him or can’t cook or isn’t young enough for him or he feels sorry for her. All of which, most times, are lies.
Some polygamous husbands tell lies to the existing wife, as well
They lie about why they want to marry other women. For instance, the husband may say he wants to help another woman with her faith. Yet, he may have married a woman who is not Muslim, and he has no guarantee that she will become Muslim. Someone who knows Islam knows that only Allah can make someone a Muslim or a non-Muslim.
The man may marry a woman who is young, and has no children. It’s okay to do so, but why lie and say one is doing it to help a woman? There are many Muslim women in dire need who have children, yet the men didn’t consider those women for marriage.
Nonetheless, men need no reason or excuse to become polygamous the same as he needed no reason to get married the first time. Why then do men make excuses or lie to the existing wives or the future wives, when it is not necessary?
Some polygamous husbands tell lies that create problems between all the wives
The husband now has the future wife thinking she is better or superior to the existing wife. She thinks the husband may soon divorce the first wife and make her (the newcomer) the only wife. The newcomer thinks once the husband is with her, he will no longer want the other wife.
The future wife begins to plot and plan based on false information. She may begin to treat the existing wife as though the existing wife is beneath her. The newcomer’s actions or words tell the existing wife the story of what is going on in the newcomer’s head.
The main reason some polygamous husbands tell lies to the potential wives
The main reason some polygamous husbands tell lies to the future wives is because the future wives may refuse the marriage proposal, if they hear the truth. Most people can’t handle the truth. The future wife may not want to hear that the man whom she is thinking about marrying loves his existing wife and family. She surely won’t like knowing that he still has sexual relations with his wife.
If she hears of problems, she may have hope that he will eventually, sooner than later, rid himself of the existing wife and she (the future wife) would stay as the only wife. Polygamous husbands tell lies, as they knows the first wives and the first wives’ families and friends would not accept that the husbands married other women.
Think of all the problems the husband may have been able to avoid had he simply been truthful. When polygamous husbands tell lies, no good comes from it. They mainly lie to get what they want. The lies hurt them and the women. The truth always seems to come out. What has the polygamous husbands gained by lying?
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