Some polygamous men married for lust. It goes against the dictates in the Quran. It is wrong. Let’s explore the subject of lust and desires a bit. Are lust and desires good or bad? Lust and desires are not easy to understand.
A learned man once said something very profound to me about lust and desires. He said to speak of lust and desires as they relate to the Holy Quran is like trying to teach geometry or trigonometry to someone who has just begun to learn basic math. I now agree with him.
I remember how I responded many years ago when he first said to me that it is not good to follow desires. I just could not get it. I couldn’t wrap my head around it. I flat-out rejected it. I kept thinking. I have wants, needs and desires. There is nothing wrong with me trying to fulfill them. After years of reading the Quran and considering the ayat (verses) that dealt with lust and desire, I realized the learned man was right.
Some polygamous men married for lust, which is not good
There are good desires and bad desires. To want to worship and serve Allah is a desire that is good to have. It is the best desire to have. All other desires are questionable. They can lead one astray from the straight path (the Mustaqueen). They could lead one away from the path of righteousness. They takes one away from the path of Allah. It’s the path to Jannah/Paradise.
The best reason for a Muslim man to marry is so that he could serve and worship Allah better. He should want to marry a spouse who has the same goal. They should want to obey Allah and live the Quran so that they could go to Jannah/Paradise. They should want to be in a union (marriage) that would help take them there.
Think about how lust and desires come into play in your life, and especially in a polygamous marriage. We all have a desire to please people. We want to please our spouses, children, family and friends. At times what it takes to please those people conflicts with what Allah tells us to do and not to do. It’s an example of how our desires could lead us astray.
Some polygamous men married for lust. Allah tells us in the Holy Quran not to marry for lust
The best desire to have is the desire to worship and serve Allah, keeping religion pure and holy for Him. A man should want to marry a woman who has the same desire.
Desires could become our Lord. Some of those desires are the desire for wealth, for children, for commerce, for food and drink etc. The desire to please a spouse, and going against what Allah tells us to do, is following a desire. There are Fire and desire…
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