Some women blame polygamy for keeping them from the worship of Allah. A few here at Polygamy 411 have said it. They think it would be best for them to leave the polygamous marriage, so they could serve Allah better. It makes no sense to me. What do they mean?
I think polygamy is either a blessing or a curse for each person in it. Only Allah knows. If polygamy is a curse for the woman, Allah could be punishing her in the polygamous marriage. What makes her think she can escape Allah’s punishment? If Allah has placed the woman in the marriage as a blessing, it could be a test for her. One either passes or fails a test. Does one have a choice to not take the test? If one intends not to take the test, isn’t it failure?
When some women blame polygamy for them not being able to worship Allah, do they reject Allah?
If a woman says she can’t worship Allah while in a polygamous marriage, she rejects Allah. Allah commands us to worship Him even when it’s difficult.
Maybe she is angry at Allah. She may think He is at fault in that He permits polygamy for men. It’s as though she rebels against Allah for it.
It seems the woman says, as long as she is in an unhappy marriage, she will not serve Allah. Being angry at her husband shouldn’t stop her from serving Allah. Being angry at Allah would.
Some women blame polygamy by saying they can’t serve Allah, so they’d have a reason to leave the marriage
They want an easy way out of their marriage. The woman doesn’t want to look like a bad person who is unhappy with Islam. She may think that if she says she can’t worship Allah while in a polygamous marriage, it is an excuse that no one would challenge.
When women blame polygamy by saying it is getting in the way of them being dutiful to Allah, they may expect others to tell them to get out of it. They expect to get support from all who they give the excuse to.
It makes no sense when some women blame polygamy for interfering with their worship of Allah
Adversity should bring a Muslim closer to Allah, not away from Him. It is a means to humble a person, and have her turn to Allah in prayer and remembrance of Him. If the woman turns away from Allah, she was probably not close to Allah to begin with. Allah says seek His help with patient perseverance and prayer.
If a woman can’t serve Allah when she is in a difficult situation, then she has a problem that is huge. She can only serve Him when things are easy? It is conditional worship. Does she think she can choose when and how she will worship Allah?
This post is to get a woman to think about what she says before she says it. What does it really mean when she says she doesn’t want to stay in the polygamous marriage, as it takes her away from Allah? It may say more about her than she realizes.
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