Things to Know about Divorce in Islam

Things to know about divorce in Islam Among the things to know about divorce in Islam as it relates to polygamy is that we at the polygamy 411 blog do not tell any woman that she must stay in a polygamous marriage. It’s important to note that there are women who love their husbands and want to stay married to them, despite that their husbands have become polygamous.

Not all women want to divorce the men whom they love, regardless of their problems. For instance, some women may feel compelled to stay in a polygamous marriage when they consider such things as the children, finances and having a place to live. Furthermore, not wanting to live in a polygamous marriage is not reason enough to leave for most. They must weigh the pros and cons of staying and leaving.

There are some women who are adamant about not accepting polygamy. Generally speaking, those are the women who leave a polygamous marriage quickly. Those women don’t need anyone to tell them to leave. They intended it on their own. Those are the women who know they are unwilling to accept a polygamous marriage under any condition or circumstance.

Among things to know about divorce in Islam as it relates to polygamy is that a woman may seek divorce

Most women know that they can divorce, as Allah has allowed spouses that recourse. So, then why do some women come here to tell others that they don’t have to accept their polygamous marriage? Why tell them that they can and should leave it?

The outsiders can’t see that the women are bright and intelligent and know what their options are. Basically, I’ve found that most women know that they can leave the marriage. However, they battle with themselves as to if they should or not. They need to make their intention and then do what they must to get it done.

Sadly, some people project their own mores and beliefs on others. By and large, they hate polygamy. With that said, they want others to dislike it, as well.

In conclusion, a woman needs to take a good look at herself and her life. She needs to ask herself why she stays in her marriage and what she wants from it. Only she can answer it.

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8 Comments

  • anabellah

    April 15, 2017

    Maria ortiz,

    Here is the link to the Pakistani thread: Should You Marry a Pakistani Man – Beware

  • anabellah

    April 15, 2017

    Maria ortiz,

    Welcome to the 411. It’s nice that you here. πŸ™‚

    I suggest you go with your gut feelings. If you feel that he is hiding and lying to you, he probably is, especially knowing what I know about many of the Pakistani men who propose so quickly to an American or foreign woman. He probably has got something up his sleeves. Sounds to me that if he wants to get married to you in private with no wedding, he just want to have casual, sexual relationship with you and get citizenship while at it. I’m not sure if you’re saying he wants to marry you in Pakistan or he is already married in Pakistan. If he isn’t already married in Pakistan, you could expect that he probably will marry someone from there and be married to you as well. She and his and her family will most likely be his priority. It most definitely won’t be you.

    Why be bothered with someone who may be setting you up for a lifetime of misery, heartache and heartbreak? Don’t you think you could do better than that? I suggest you get rid of him and quickly. You should read the the threads on this blog about Marriage to Pakistani men. Think using your brain and not your heart.

  • Maria ortiz

    April 15, 2017

    I am a citizen i met my boyfriend at eork my boss present him to me we been date in seen decembember2016 he wants to get marry but he marry in pakistan he want to get marry in a private place eith no weddding i am very confused i ferl like he hiding stuff and lying to me

  • anabellah

    March 28, 2017

    Flower,

    Good pointhttps://polygamy411.com/wp-content/plugins/wp-monalisa/icons/wpml_good.gif I hear you. I’m tracking. Thank you! πŸ™‚

  • Flower

    March 28, 2017

    Ana

    Yes, not only is it a good fear but it also a blessing. Some people don’t get those feelings. They feel no way at all when they do wrong (disobey Allah). To have those feelings is guidence,a mercy a little nudge in the right direction. Like, hold up, wait a minute, let’s put some taqwa in it.

  • anabellah

    March 28, 2017

    Flower,

    I like what you said and how you simplified it. You stated:

    “One of the things that I personally think sets (Islamic) polygamy apart is fear of rejecting part of the religion and subsequently what rejecting polyagmy means from an Islamic point of view.”

    I see it as a fear that is good. πŸ™‚

  • anabellah

    March 28, 2017

    Flower, As Salaamu Alaikum,

    Thank you much for imputing about the article. I like hearing other’s views. I like your take on it and I agree wholeheartedly with you.

    I’ve found that someone who tell another to simply “leave” a marriage doesn’t have a clue. Most of them may not be in a marriage to begin with. If they were, and they love their husbands, they would know that leaving isn’t a simple thing to do.

    Furthermore, if they believe that Allah controls all that is in the Heavens and the earth and all between, they would know that no one leaves a marriage unless or until Allah decides it. So, they wouldn’t ask a dumb question.

    I see why Allah says we shouldn’t let those outside our ranks into our intimacy. They have no clue and they can lead us astray by spouting their ignorance to us. They cause us to doubt. Allah says that when we doubt, He places doubt on top of doubt.

  • Flower

    March 28, 2017

    Iv never heard it put like this before. A very well thought out post. It does irritate me when others say “you should leave” “why do you put up with it”. What do they want me to say? I couldn’t possibly explain every thought and feeling I had untill I concluded im staying in my marriage. I assume the reasons for staying in polyagmy are much the same as any person staying in any situation they don’t like. Which is fear; fear of the unknown, fear of the reprocussions, fear of change etc. One of the things that I personally think sets (Islamic) polygamy apart is fear of rejecting part of the religion and subsequently what rejecting polyagmy means from an Islamic point of view.

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