Polygamy 411 writers fall prey to unreasonable polygamy faultfinders every now and again. I define those people as those who have no positive interest in the subject. Instead, they cruise the site looking to find something that is derogatory about polygamy. In general, they look to belittle and demean the people who are in polygamous marriages or are supportive of polygamy.
Overall, we at polygamy 411 are familiar with the unreasonable polygamy faultfinders. They come to the blog and talk about how extremely sad they are for the women who are in polygamous marriages. Specifically, they refer to the hurt and the pain that the writers have and are in. The faultfinders talk about how terrible they feel for the person in it and how they wish there was someway they could help.
The perceived sympathizers think that they help persons in the marriages by telling them that they don’t have to stay married, and could leave. Although they don’t tell the writers anything that they don’t already know. For one thing, the writers here aren’t dumb or stupid. We’ve got bright and intelligent people here.
Unreasonable polygamy faultfinders do more harm than good
The harm comes when people don’t know what the Polygamy 411 blog is for and is about. Before they pop off at the mouth voicing their thoughts and feelings and giving unsolicited advice about what some of the writers say and what they are going through, they need to know the purpose of this blog. Polygamy 411 is a blog and support group.
As with any support group (and there are tons of them), the people come here to discuss the problems and issues that they have in their marriages. The writers are here to receive help and encouragement from those who are going through what they are going through or have been through it or may go through it one day. They are not here looking for pity. Our writers aren’t weird or freaks. Our writers aren’t here for the readers’ entertainment either. It’s not what their stories are for.
Unreasonable polygamy faultfinders think there is something wrong with polygamy
Some of the critics want polygamy banned because of the turmoil that the women go through. Those critics don’t understand the writers here. The writers are not here to gloat or brag about how wonderful their polygamous life is. Although, a commentator was here who used to do just that and do it daily. Polygamy 411 will attract those people who want to discuss their issues about living polygamy. They want to discuss it with those who have a common interest in the subject. I repeat-those with a “common” interest.
Before anyone comes to this blog again with her pity post (feeling sorry for the writers), please research what a support group is. This way if the person feels compelled to comment, she or he can do so using intellect. No one here needs anyone’s pity. They should take a look at themselves because they could use some help too. There are many support groups for marriage counseling. This is one.
I don’t know why it’s so difficult for some people to understand it. If you’re not part of the solution, you’re part of the problem.
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