Most wives end up wanting more in a polygamous marriage. It doesn’t matter if she is the 1st, 2nd, 3rd or 4th wife. She thinks she should get better treatment, and have more privileges than his other wife. It causes problems when she ends up wanting more. For instance, it causes the wives to dislike each other. Furthermore, it causes them to compete with each other.
Wives find themselves wanting more in a polygamous marriage, as the one wife begins to blame the other for getting in the way of what she thinks she is due. For instance, the one wife may say the other is selfish. The wife who married first may say that the other didn’t consider the effect that marrying as a second wife would have on her and her children.
The wife who married second may think that she has just as much of a right to the husband as the wife who married him first. She may think the other wife had the husband to herself long enough, and now it is her time to get special treatment. All wives usually end up wanting more in a polygamous marriage once they settle into it.
Wanting more in a polygamous marriage comes about when Satan whispers to the wife
It is not her imagination. Satan whispers all kinds of things to the wife. In other words, he wants to make her unhappy with her life. specifically, he may tell her that she deserves more from her husband. Perhaps he tells her that the other wife is taking from her. For example, she’s taking money or time or resources from her. The wife doesn’t know that all that she has comes from Allah. Allah gave it all to her. No one can take away from her what Allah has allotted for her.
Wives wanting more in a polygamous marriage arises when they don’t have knowledge of Allah. A wife becomes angry at her husband or at the other wife or at both when she doesn’t understand that Allah is in control. A woman who knows the truth, meaning knows her Islam will not get upset about what she has or doesn’t have. It’s because she knows that Allah knows what is best for her. Especially, she knows that Allah is a Just God. She gets it.
Wives wanting more in a polygamous marriage shows that they don’t have important facts
Each wife will only get what Allah wrote for her to have. Specifically, what is for her will never pass her and what passes her was never for her. Allah gives people what they have earned based on the good and righteous deeds that they do. He is a Just, Benevolent, Generous, Bountiful, Kind, and Loving God, and much more. Allah is Sovereign, and He Rules and Disposes of all affairs.
Allah gives each wife what He wants her to have and it’s based on His Will and Plan. There is no need for a wife to worry about what she will have in this life. Rather, a wife should put her faith and trust in Allah. If she does that, she will then have peace and contentment in this world’s life. Furthermore, she will have much more in the Hereafter.
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