What does it mean to accept polygamy? We have heard Muslims say we should accept polygamy as a way of life for us. Do we really know what to accept polygamy means? Before a person can accept polygamy the person must know the meaning of acceptance when it comes to a polygamous lifestyle.
To accept polygamy means to believe Allah allows polygamy for men. It was the way of some of Allah’s Prophets. They are our examples. Allah says His Prophet are our examples. The Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) was polygamous in his lifetime. We should read about Allah’s prophets in the Quran. We should relate the lessons to our lives. The Holy Quran is a guide for the believers.
What does it mean to accept polygamy? To accept polygamy means to know Allah chose our mates for us
He decreed polygamy for men who are polygamous. He chose the women who the husband would marry. He chose the men who the women would marry. If a wife thinks her husband chose to become polygamous and chose the wives, she will never accept polygamy. She will not accept that he did something that hurts her badly.
If a wife believes polygamy is about her husband wanting a polygamous life and he doesn’t care how she feels or how it affects her, nothing will make her feel better. Nothing he says or does will ease her pain. Even if he divorces the other woman, her marriage would never be the same again.
What does it mean to accept polygamy? To accept polygamy means to like it
It means to have enthusiasm about living the lifestyle. A wife may say she’ll deal with polygamy because it’s what she is to do. She doesn’t like it and is in a lot of pain in it. What good is it to just deal with polygamy, but not like it?
It won’t make for a good marriage. She may as well just leave her husband. She will still continue to suffer in the marriage, if she has negative thoughts about polygamy and her husband. Negative thoughts only produce negative results.
What does it mean to accept polygamy? It means to have the correct belief in our Creator
A wife must know what to accept polygamy means, if she wants to have a good polygamous marriage. The wife must believe that polygamy is not only good. It is a good way of life for her. She must like it. The wife must have enthusiasm about what Allah has decided for her. If it is a polygamous marriage. She needs to enjoy it.
She has to believe that Allah controls all things. He decreed polygamy for the person who is in it. She must believe Allah places the desire for polygamy in the husband’s heart. She should not blame the husband for how she or he feels.
If a wife wants to have a good polygamous marriage, she needs to know that Allah is the Creator and He disposes of our affairs. The husband and the wife has to want to live a polygamous life, knowing if they are in it, Allah placed them in it. A wife should not go against Allah with her desires. One must know what it means to accept polygamy before one can do it.
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