A woman may think that just because she didn’t divorce her polygamous husband and stayed in the marriage, she has accepted polygamy. Maybe she thinks if she tolerates that her husband has another wife, it means that she has embraced it.
A wife may think that she has made a sacrifice in the cause of Allah when she stays in a marriage that she is miserable in. However, just because she stays in the marriage doesn’t mean that she accepts it.
It isn’t always a good deed, if a wife stays in her marriage. If she suffers in the marriage, it could be a blessing as in a test. It could be a curse, as well. With that said, we know that Allah doesn’t punish us for the good that we do. He punishes us for the evil that we do.
Spouses should have peace in a marriage whether it is a monogamous or a polygamous one. If there is no peace in it, then the spouses need to contemplate why it is.
What does it take for a wife to accept polygamy? She must agree with all that is in the Holy Quran
In fact, the spouses should have a beautiful contentment about it. If a wife is angry and not happy that her husband married another woman besides her, then she has not accepted polygamy.
A wife should like that she is in the situation, because she knows that Allah placed her in it. She knows that Allah knows what is best for her. She doesn’t question Allah, nor does she blame others for what He has done.
The wife knows that Allah has chosen our mates for us. No doubt that if a wife feels and thinks negatively about her polygamous marriage, she has not accepted what Allah has decreed for her.
What does it take for a wife to accept polygamy? She must do everything with the desire to seek the good pleasure of Allah
A woman shouldn’t think that she has done the other woman a favor by sharing her husband. It’s because all the credit is due to Allah. Particularly, He decided it. It’s wrong to take credit for what Allah has done.
Maybe a wife does a good deed, if she reaches out to her co-wife and is nice to her, while seeking the good pleasure of Allah. If she does it to make her husband happy or for her co-wife to think good of her or to make herself feel good, it’s not a good deed. It’s not, as there is an underlying motive. It wasn’t done to seek the good pleasure of Allah.
What does it take for a wife to accept polygamy? Righteousness is important for her to have
Righteousness defines who the best wife is. The best and better wife is the one who is more righteous than the other.
We know that some wives say that they love their co-wives for the sake of Allah. What does that mean? Does she love her or she doesn’t?
Allah places love in the heart. One loves another because Allah put the love there. The wife does not know why and had nothing to do with it. Why can’t she just say, I love you? Maybe she says that it is for the sake of Allah so others may see her as righteous. She may say it, as she thinks that she should feel it. Or does she says it, because it is what some Muslims say?
In conclusion, a wife should want to accept what Allah has willed. His will is what He has written for her about her life.
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