Who the husband marries matters in polygamy maybe more so than in a monogamous marriage. In a monogamous marriage, there is only one wife to have an effect on the husband. However, up to four wives could try to control the husband in a polygamous marriage.
In the first place, there are more wives to pull and tug on a husband in a polygamous marriage. It’s important that the wives pull the husband in the right direction. A wife could lead her husband to the Hell Fire. It is why it is so important that he marries women who want to serve and worship Allah.
Who the husband marries matters in polygamy, if the spouses want to have a tranquil marriage
In the Holy Quran, Allah lets us know that He created mates for us. It’s so that we could live with them in tranquility. For instance, He says:
“And among His Signs is this that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that ye may dwell in tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts): verily in that are Signs for those who reflect.” Quran: Surah 30, ayah 21
Who the husband marries matters in polygamy, if one wants to have a successful marriage
Basically, a husband and his wives will have peace in their marriage when they have the same goal. An important goal is to strive for Paradise and know that Allah created us to worship Him. The parties to the marriage should ask themselves if they are striving to enter Paradise, or do they only care about this world’s life? If their only concern is about life on this planet, they will lose in the Hereafter. In particular, the Hell Fire will be their abode.
When a Muslim husband has a wife who is a believer and has an unbelieving one, as well, it opens the door for trouble. The believing wife would have to limit her dealings with the other one or have no dealings with her at all. It’s so that she could keep from going astray from the straight path. She must exercise extreme care in her marriage. It’s so her husband or his other wife won’t lead her astray from the Path of Allah.
Let me expound on the topic of, “Who the husband marries matters in polygamy”. I will share with you an excerpt from a book that I read
The name of the book is, “Purification of the Soul”, Concept, Process and Means, by Jamaal Al-Din M. Zarabozo. The excerpt is as follows:
“If a person is simply overcome by one’s desire for beauty, youth or wealth in a spouse, the choice that is made may have disastrous long-term effects on the purification of the soul. Choosing a spouse who is not pious simply due to being overcome by those other criteria can damage a person’s faith in numerous ways.” The author further stated, “One’s most intimate companion and the person with whom one spends most of his time will be his spouse. It is of extreme importance that one choose one’s spouse wisely, on the basis of the proper criteria and with a pious intention.”
The above explains why “who the husband marries matters in polygamy”. It’s a serious matter.
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