Why do some people hide polygamy? Some women in polygamous marriages hide it from their families and friends. It’s sad that a married woman feels the need to hide the truth about her marriage from those whom she cares about. Especially since a woman should have pride in her marriage.
It’s especially disheartening to hear that there are Muslims who find shame in polygamy. After all, Allah approves of polygamy for men. He allows it. A point often overlooked is that one can live it easily without breaking any laws of the land. So, why do some people hide polygamy, then?
Indeed, many people disapprove of polygamy as a form of marriage. However, when one is in a polygamous marriage there is no place for shame in it. Especially if the woman is going to stay in the marriage, she shouldn’t hide in it. Marriage is an honorable way of life. If a Muslim woman finds shame in her own religion, how does she expect to find any peace and contentment in it? It’s almost impossible.
Why do some people hide polygamy when our Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) lived it, and it’s a part of Islam?
I understand that some have concerns about society. Particularly in the US, they reject polygamy. There are those in polygamous marriages who fear legal problems from it. Especially, they fear the consequences from it becoming known.
Fortunately, not everyone needs to know about it. There is no reason to broadcast to the public that one lives in a polygamous marriage. There is no need to put it on blast.
On the other hand, why hide polygamy from those whom one is very close to such as near friends and family? Hiding polygamy when it’s a part of ones religion is not acceptable. It’s not okay, as it may signal that one is not accepting of her own religion.
I strongly suggest that a woman who hasn’t told her immediate family or closest friends asks herself, why? It’s something that she needs to come to terms with, so she could have a better life.
Rather, marriage is wonderful. As a matter of fact, it has existed going back to our father Adam and his wife Eve. The Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) lived both monogamous and a polygamous lifestyles at different times in his life. Other prophets before him lived it, as well. Allah’s Prophets are our examples. If it was good enough for them, it’s good enough for us.
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