It’s common when wives compare their co wives in polygamy. Wives with polygamous husbands compare themselves to each other. A wife tries to find out if she is better than the other wife. Is she prettier, thinner, sexier, wealthier, more intelligent or better educated than the other? Those are questions that she asks herself. She may ask her friends and family what they think about it, as well.
A wife will try to find areas where she excels the other wife. The average woman who has a polygamous husband will more than likely do it. I’m not trying to excuse it, nor find fault in the wife. I just want all to know that it’s a common thing that wives do.
After the wife gets over the shock that her husband has become polygamous, she usually begins to make the comparison. In the beginning stages of the marriage, she may have self-doubt. Her self-confidence is low. She needs something to help her feel better about herself. Furthermore, she begins to wonder whether she lacks something that caused her husband to marry another woman to get it.
When wives compare their co wives in polygamy and say insulting things about them, they know in their hearts that they are wrong
A wife has been known to say the other is ugly, unattractive, old, fat or uneducated. Although, they know it’s not good to say such things, they say them anyway. We all know that we should say what is good or say nothing at all. Yet, they belittle or demean the other wife. A point often overlooked is that Allah made the co wife the way that she is. Many wives compare their co wives in polygamy and end up wronging their own souls.
Most of the time we know when we’ve done something wrong without needing anyone to tell us. It could be something a wife is working on to improve herself. No one knows what another is struggling with and trying to change. After all, we all make mistakes. It’s a fact that we all sin. We will continue to make mistakes and out-rightly sin till the end of our time.
Yet, it’s important that we realize the errors of our ways. Additionally, we need to ask Allah to help us to stop doing the things that we do wrong. We should repent and know that Allah is an Oft-Forgiveness and Most Merciful God.
It’s important that we ask Allah for His Forgiveness and Mercy. We may continue to do the same thing over and over, but know that improvement is possible. One day, lo and behold, Allah may make it happen. Suddenly, we stop doing something we have known wasn’t right. It’s something that we wanted to stop doing for a long time. A wife may find that she doesn’t compare herself to her co wife any longer.
All wives compare their co wives in polygamy, as they want to know who their husband loves more
A wife wants to know who her husband loves more. Who is his favorite wife? We know a husband will have one, and a wife wants to know who it is.
Maybe Allah tests a wife with a co wife to let her see what she needs to improve about herself. He tests us for us to see who is best in conduct. We mustn’t despair but turn to Allah for help to overcome our faults, as we all have them. What we do about our faults is what matters.
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