Sometimes wives complain about polygamous husbands. They say the husbands can’t give them all that they want or need. At polygamy 411, we’ve talked about it. It is easy for one to say that if a husband can’t support them all, he shouldn’t have more than one wife. One should not lose sight of the fact that all that one has comes from Allah. It includes spouses and wealth.
Allah determines what we have and what we don’t have. He gives it to us when he decides. Sometimes we don’t get what we need or what we want when we want it. Perhaps it is a test. Only Allah knows. People struggle with finances in monogamous marriages. They do so in polygamous ones, as well. Moreover, some wives want more material things than their husbands can give them.
I read a story about the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) that relates to this topic – wives complain about polygamous husbands. I read that his wives at one time weren’t happy with him. They were not happy, as they weren’t getting the material things that they wanted. As a result, they complained to him about it, which caused him to feel bad. Subsequently, Allah revealed an ayah (verse) to him about it. It was as follows, “O Prophet! Say to thy Consorts: If it be that ye desire the life of this World, and its glitter,- then come! I will provide for your enjoyment and set you free in a handsome manner.” Quran: Surah 33, ayah 28
Wives complain about Polygamous husbands when they think their needs aren’t being met. The wives forget that there are times when we must make sacrifices
We don’t always get what we want when we want it. The Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) had nine (9) wives. Did people tell him that he shouldn’t have all those wives if he can’t give them what they want or need? Don’t forget that Allah selected our spouses for us. The Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) was not a wealthy man. When he was monogamous (when he had only one wife until she died) he was not a wealthy man then either. His wife Khadijah was the one who had the wealth.
A wife should think twice before she pressures her husband about her wants or needs. She should especially think about it when she knows he is doing the best that he can. It’s different, if he has the wealth to spend, yet he won’t take care of his wife. You should know what you are dealing with.
In conclusion, we should think of the Hereafter. We must patiently persevere and sacrifice our wants. It may help to get us into Paradise/Jannah.
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