Major problems arise in polygamous marriages when the wives remember co wives in polygamy. Most wives spend more time remembering co wives than anything else. They remember co wives more than they remember their husbands. To remember the co-wives or the husbands is not good.
Not only do they remember the co wives, but they become obsessed with them. They think of the co wives daily. Some think of them most of the day, if not all day. The thought of the other wives married to their husbands consume them.
Usually the wives think about what the husbands do with the other wives. In particular, they think about where they go; what they talk about; what they do sexually; how often they have sex; or whether they do the same things to the other wives that they do to them. The wife wonders if the husband loves the other wife more than he loves her. The thoughts are many.
When wives remember co wives in polygamy, it causes the wives a great deal of stress
When wives remember co wives, they stress out and can find no peace of mind. Thoughts of the co wife are always in their heads. A person may tell her to do things to stay busy. She may find that staying busy is only a temporary fix. It doesn’t take away the thoughts in her head. It is as though she is not only obsessed, but possessed.
When wives remember co wives, in essence, Satan has a hold of them. How is it so? Satan has the power of suggestion. He makes the suggestions by whispering to the wives. A wife may think it’s her active imagination, but it is not. Little does she know that it is Satan at work. Satan is on his job, and he does it well. He whispers into the hearts of mankind. All of the examples of thoughts that I mentioned above that a wife has are from Satan. Satan entertains the wife. The wife has let Satan set up shop in her head.
When wives remember co wives in polygamy, they suffer pain and heartache
The wives have the pain and heartache because they have forgotten Allah. Allah says when we do not remember Him, He gives us an evil companion. The companion is Satan or unbelievers who say the same type of things to the wives that Satan whispers. They, in a sense, are employees of Satan.
When a wife goes to an unbeliever, which could be a Muslim or a non-Muslim, for advice, the wife gets nothing but negative feedback. She or he possibly tells the wife to divorce the husband or asks what the wife did to cause the husband to need another wife. Did she not sex him up enough, cook for him, keep the house clean, pay him enough attention? She or he places blame on the wife directly or indirectly and makes her feel that she has failed as a wife.
When wives remember co wives in polygamy, it’s a sign that they are not doing something right
When she is upset, sad, stressed, frustrated or depressed etc, it is because she is not remembering Allah. She does not feel well. How could she? She disobeys Allah. When we disobey Allah, we have problems. We already know that Allah gives us an evil companion when we don’t remember Him.
Allah tells us that He remembers those who remember Him. He says when we remember Him, we see clearly. We see alright. Allah says remembrance of Him is the greatest thing in life. There is no doubt. We must believe that only Allah can help us.
A wife could sit with Satan and listen to him. She could sit with Satan’s agents, as well. However, the best thing a wife could do is remember Allah, so that she fall under His protection. A wife needs to check her thoughts. She needs to recognize what they are. What and who she is thinking of? A wife needs to get her thoughts in check.
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