Wives Suffer in Polygamous Marriages

wives suffer in polygamous marriages

Many wives suffer in polygamous marriages, and the pain they feel is excruciating. Most never thought their husbands would become polygamous. Rather, they thought they were safe from it; although they knew polygamy is a part of a Muslim’s way of life.

Most wives have children by their husbands, and thought it would stop their husbands from becoming polygamous. Furthermore, they thought their husbands could not afford more than one wife. Others thought they were all that a man would want, could hope for or needed in a woman. How dare he do such a thing to me, she may say.  Others may have thought their husband were not the type to marry another.

When the husband becomes polygamous and the wife begins to suffer unbearably, she sets out to get rid of the terrible pain that she feels. She has to find a way to end it. Basically, she turns to anyone who might have answers about how she could get relief. Many wives turn to the internet in search of help. It is how some find us here at polygamy 411.

Many wives suffer in polygamous marriages and try to find a way to ease the pain

There is no simple remedy. There is no instant solution. Perhaps Allah is punishing some of them, which is why they suffer. Maybe polygamy is a test. We have talked about tests here on the blog. We have spent little time talking about it as a punishment. Allah says His punishment is severe.

A husband, a wife or both may not find the peace and tranquility that Allah says we should have in a marriage. It could be, because He may have cursed them for their unbelief. In the Quran, Allah lets us know that He has cursed the unbeliever. An unbeliever do not serve and worship Him the way that He instructs us to. Although some call themselves Muslims, some of them are unbelievers. One could call her or himself a Muslim, but it doesn’t mean he or she is.

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  • anabellah

    July 16, 2015


    Mari2, I, the same as you, am so grateful to Allah for this site. You and all the ladies and the gents (although their numbers are small) who join us here are absolutely amazing. Everyone’s participation by commenting and sharing makes this blog what it is.

    There is so much information out there online about Islam that many times Muslims don’t know where to begin to look and what to accept and reject. It took years of reading Islamic material, much of which was erroneous before I realized and learned I have to rely on the word of Allah (The Holy Quran) revealed to our beloved Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) for the truth.

    Allah is the only reality. His word is a guide and mercy for Believers, and a warning for the unbelievers. It really boils down to belief or unbelief. There is no in between. I only want to learn and live what will make my life in this world peaceful and tranquil, and take me to Jannah/Paradise. I think you all want the same for yourselves. We want to have the best in this world and the best in the Hereafter and for Allah to protect us from His wrath and the Hell Fire.

    I try to share with everyone all that I know, and am still learning. May Allah forgive me for anything I may have said that is wrong, as my intent is only to say what is correct. I am so very much grateful to Allah for all my experiences, which is always changing me and molding me into a better me each and every day. I wouldn’t have it any other way. It’s been an awesome and amazing journey. I’m glad we’ve been journeying together. I’m so happy to take the journey with each and everyone of you here at the 411.

  • Mari2

    July 16, 2015

    Once again you have written an article that resonates with me. Thank you. Again I am so infinitely thankful for this site. I thank Allah that over time I understood HIS will as to allowing my husband to have another wife. I can say that I do not have an issue with M having another wife. I will continue to pray that 2 increases her belief and comes to accept polygamy as something permissible for M rather than the ruination of her life. Early eid mubarak to you and all the sisters here.

  • anabellah

    July 15, 2015

    @Thank you much, Sis Alison. Insha Allah, I’ll continue to write about what I know that has undoubtedly helped me – what I know works first hand that brings good results. Much love to you too, Sis

  • Alison

    July 15, 2015

    Great article as usual I love how you write keep on doing so in shaa Allah…much love